Day 10 of Healing (Thurs)

Wow. It has been 10 days since I started this blog.

I finally felt convinced that I need to leave this relationship behind. I am letting go of something that is hurting me and blaming me so much for me being me.

I am just going to wait till the day that our last connection is dissolved and then I can move on better.

I feel sad that I had to leave a person that I loved behind and cannot be in love with him.

But I know, I cannot postpone and wait for something that is not for me.

I just have to get used to a life without him as well.

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